Life
is full of worries and complications which affects everyone. Whether someone is
poor or rich, have enough food to eat or remains hungry for the entire day, is
surrounded by loved ones or remains alone, no matter who you are or what you
do, problems do come in everyone’s life. Problems can be of several kinds and
does not involve any hard and fast rule to be specific in everyone’s life. It
can be a student, a professional, a home maker, a business woman looking for performance enhancement Austin or a small
child and each of them have one or the other trouble.
We
think that a small child is the happiest person in the world and does not have
any trouble. They depend on their parents or care giver for every need whether
it is to eat, drink or other essential things to sustain life. An even small
thing like wanting a pen which is kept out of their reach is provided by an
adult. Some anti social people take advantage of their helplessness and their
innocence to fulfill their own immoral desires. Pedophile is the term given to
such people who are sexually attracted to small children. For a momentary
pleasure they take advantage of small children and toddlers leaving them scared
for the rest of their life. Being sexually exploited at a very tender age
affects their overall development.
Children
do not like eating anything, they do not want to talk to anyone, even their
parents, and they experience bad dreams at night and often scream in their
sleep. The experience they had affects their mind psychologically and if what
they had faced included beating and physical assault, the impact becomes
greater. It requires the skills and expertise of a professional counselor who
deals with such situations on a regular basis. But you must keep in mind that
the counselor should not be of the same sex as the pedophile was. Children
mostly do not keep in mind the face of the person who attacked them but a
minute detail like he was a man or a woman, was tall or short or lean or bulky.
The counselor should be exactly of different appearance as was the pedophile.
This would make the work of the child counselor very easy. They can talk to
them; try to indulge them in different activities to divert their mind from the
problem so that they are not scared for the rest of their life.
Adolescence
can also have many problems involved because that is the age when a child faces
maximum changes and transformation in them. They see their body changing,
having different feelings and emotions due to hormonal changes in their body.
Adolescent girls face too many changes at once because of the internal and
external body changes their body is going through to enable them for a healthy
sexual life ahead. But they feel shy to discuss all this with their parents and
teachers. There isn’t any definite age for the puberty to start so even if the
parents and teachers try to help children, they are not able to do so. In some
children it may begin as soon as 10 years of age or as late as 14 years of age
and until a child actually goes through this phase they are not able to
understand what is going on with them.
It
is the responsibility of the elders to start looking for the changes in their
children and have such a relationship with them in which they are not scared of
sharing even the smallest thing that happens with them. Not just the puberty
but school bulling is also a big concern with adolescent children of today.
With the increased violence in the movies and television serials around them
they get influenced very easily which have great impact on their mind. You must
have heard about children taking arms and ammunitions to their school and
shooting children over petty matters.
Being adult it is your duty to help your
boys through adolescent girl or adolescent boys counseling Austin. An adolescent counselor tries to understand the
problems and issues a boy or a girl is going through and if they are facing any
conflict at school with some other child. You can try to talk to them and try
to understand their point of view and circumstance their mind is going through.
Then involve the school teacher and the parents of the other child because may
be he needs help as much as your child. School bulling is a problem which can
be solved only by involving all the parents and teachers and not just one.
Marriages
are said to be made in heaven but on earth, this heavenly relationship can also
be crumpled due to problems and troubles arising around them. Financial
problems, lack of attraction between them, or lack of understanding whatever it
is can impact the life of any married couple. Any problem can create havoc in a
couple’s life if it is not solved on time and with proper communication. When
two people get united in a relationship, it is not about who will compromise or
who will adjust to support the life of others, there should be a mutual
understanding between them so that both of them adjust equally to make their
life beautiful and comfortable as a whole.
No
relationship can be enjoyed if you expect too much from the other person and
want them to understand your each requirement and desire without telling them.
Real life is at all like the one shown in the mills and boon novels. It is far
more harsh and cruel, and if you will force your partner to be the romantic
prince or princess of your dream then you may end up causing harm to your
relationship. You should try and understand them as well. If your spouse is
busy in his or her work then try to understand them. If you are having problems
in your relationship then contact Brene brown in Austin at kelleycounseling.com.
